Strategies For Ending The Parent-Child Power Struggle

Understanding the Dynamics:

Power struggles between parents and children often stem from a natural desire for autonomy. Children want to gain more independence, yet know at the same time their innate need for guidance. Recognizing this underlying dynamic is crucial to finding constructive solutions.

Encourage Independence: Foster a sense of independence in your child by allowing them age-appropriate choices. This not only helps them develop decision-making skills but also reduces the need for power struggles. For example, let them choose their clothes, snacks, or bedtime stories within the boundaries you set.

Establish Clear Expectations: Clearly communicate your expectations and rules. When children understand the reasons behind certain rules, they are more likely to cooperate. Make sure the rules are consistent and age-appropriate.

Active Listening: Take the time to listen to your child's perspective. Understanding their thoughts and feelings validates their experiences and helps build trust. This open communication can reduce the likelihood of power struggles as children feel heard and respected.

About the author: Joy Acaso is our own Parenting Coach at Nightwatch Childcare Center. She has over 17 years of experience in the mental health field. She is available to answer your questions and provide resources that can help your family thrive.